Polygyny is NOT a Sin, It's Marriage, Multiplied

March 17, 2016
Patriarchy

Churchianity and Christianity are absolutely misguided about this one. Where in the Holy Scriptures it is written that Polygyny is a sin? Yahuah did not call it a sin. And if Yahuah didn't call it a sin but you do, you twist the truth!

Polygamy vs Polygyny

Polygamy means plural marriage. This may mean:

1 man + more than 1 wife = polygyny

1 woman + more than 1 husband = polyandry

Polygyny is not a sin whereas polyandry is. Why? Let's look at that now.

What is sin?

Most Churchians believe that sin is what you feel bad about in your heart. But is it really? We can only really know what sin is from the Law since sin is the transgression of the Law.

Everyone who sins also commits lawlessnessSin is lawlessness.

1 John 3:4 (WEB)

Other translations read "sin is the transgression of the law" or "breaking God's law".

Everyone who sins is breaking God’s law, for all sin is contrary to the law of God.

1 John 3:4 (NLT)

Whosoever committeth sin transgresseth also the law: for sin is the transgression of the law.

1 John 3:4 (KJV)

I have an article that explains in detail what sin is: What is sin? Sin is the transgression of the Law

Now, as we know that sin is the transgression of the Law let us see how does the Law define adultery and polygyny.

Adultery is sin, polygyny is not adultery

Most Churchians believe that adultery is a sin. They also believe that polygyny is adultery. But is it really? Where is polygyny defined as adultery? Most of them don't know but adultery is defined as a sin in the Law. And polygyny is not defined as adultery, let alone a sin. We can only really know what sin is from the Law since sin is the transgression of the Law.

I have an article that explains in great detail what adultery is: What is adultery? Adultery is intimacy with another man's wife 

In summary, adultery always involves another man's wife, thus, a married man can't commit adultery with an unmarried woman.

If a man is found lying with a woman married to a husband, then they shall both die, the man who lay with the woman and the woman. So you shall remove the evil from Israel. If there is a young lady who is a virgin pledged to be married to a husband, and a man finds her in the city, and lies with her;then you shall bring them both out to the gate of that city, and you shall stone them to death with stones; the lady, because she didn’t cry, being in the city; and the man, because he has humbled his neighbor’s wife. So you shall remove the evil from among you.

– Deuteronomy 22:22-24

So what if a married man wants to take an unmarried woman, in addition to her first wife? According to Scripture, this is not adultery and not a sin as this is not stealing another man's possession (wife).

You shall not commit adultery.
“You shall not steal.
“You shall not give false testimony against your neighbor.
You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife. Neither shall you desire your neighbor’s house, his field, or his male servant, or his female servant, his ox, or his donkey, or anything that is your neighbor’s.”

– Deuteronomy 5:18-21

As you can see coveting your neighbor's wife is in the very same list with cattle, property and servants. This is because The husband owns his wife, she is his possession

Why would owning more than one car, more than one house, more than one sheep or more than one wife a sin? It would make no sense!

Polyandry, on the other hand side, is in itself a violation of one man's possession (wife) and therefore, it's a sin of adultery. I'm in no way promoting polyandry and for this reason, I prefer using the word polygyny, which specifically describes the practice of one husband taking multiple wives. There's nothing extraordinary about polygyny. Polygyny is simply having not one but multiple marriages. I'm sure you can agree that marriage is not called a sin in the Scriptures. How would then multiple marriages be a sin?

As we discussed just now, polygyny is not a sin according to the Law. In fact, polygyny was a common practice among the Hebrews. And yes, our faith has Hebrew roots.

Polygyny was a common practice in the Scriptures

Many men of Yahuah had multiple wives. Many of the authors of the Scriptures had multiple wives, too. Do you think that the authors of the Scriptures were adulterers?

Polygyny is scriptural marriage, not adultery.

Here are just a couple of men of Yahuah who had multiple wives.

Abraham - One of the first patriarchs of our faith.

Jacob - One of the first patriarchs of our faith.

David - Wrote Psalms and was called the man after Yahuah's heart.

Solomon - Wrote proverbs and Song of Solomon.

Gideon - Leader of the army of Israel that beat Yahuah's enemies.

Moses - Wrote 5 books called the Law, he led Israel out of Egypt.

I confess that I cannot forbid a person to marry several wives, for it does not contradict the Scripture. If a man wishes to marry more than one wife he should be asked whether he is satisfied in his conscience that he may do so in accordance with the word of God. In such a case the civil authority has nothing to do in the matter.

- Martin Luther (De Wette II, 459, ibid., pp. 329-330.)

Yahuah had two wives and he loved them both

Yahuah himself showed his love to two women in his own symbolical marriage.

Yahuah tells us the symbolic story of being married to two women: Oholah and Oholibah – symbolizing Samaria and Jerusalem. Certainly the God of love did love both of his wives. Indeed, he loved two women at the same time.

Yahuah’s word came again to me, saying, Son of man, there were two women, the daughters of one mother: and they played the prostitute in Egypt; they played the prostitute in their youth; there were their breasts pressed, and there was handled the bosom of their virginity. Their names were Oholah the elder, and Oholibah her sister: and they became mine, and they bore sons and daughters. As for their names, Samaria is Oholah, and Jerusalem Oholibah.

Ezekiel 23:1-4

Those of you who think this is just a spiritual symbol, let me tell you that Yahuah doesn't use symbols which cannot be transferred to us on a human level. He also doesn't use symbols that would show him being in sin (as he can't sin), therefore, just by this verse alone, we can tell that a man can love more than one wife.

Since the man was created in the image of Yahuah, men can also love more wives at the same time.

David and Bathsheba

There are people who would refer to David and Bathsheba to justify that indeed polygyny is a sin. They say that David was already married and when he took another wife, Bathsheba Yahuah was angry with him.

So let's look at the story and find out the truth.

At the return of the year, at the time when kings go out, David sent Joab, and his servants with him, and all Israel; and they destroyed the children of Ammon, and besieged Rabbah. But David stayed at Jerusalem. At evening, David arose from his bed and walked on the roof of the king’s house. From the roof, he saw a woman bathing, and the woman was very beautiful to look at. David sent and inquired after the woman. One said, “Isn’t this Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam, Uriah the Hittite’s wife?”
David sent messengers, and took her; and she came in to him, and he lay with her (for she was purified from her uncleanness); and she returned to her house. The woman conceived; and she sent and told David, and said, “I am with child.”

- 2 Samuel 11:1-5

It is clear from the story that Bathsheba was a married woman, the wife of Uriah. David knowing this laid with her. This is adultery and David knew it. But let's read it further.

In the morning, David wrote a letter to Joab, and sent it by the hand of Uriah. He wrote in the letter, saying, “Send Uriah to the forefront of the hottest battle, and retreat from him, that he may be struck, and die.
When Joab kept watch on the city, he assigned Uriah to the place where he knew that valiant men were. The men of the city went out, and fought with Joab. Some of the people fell, even of David’s servants; and Uriah the Hittite died also.

- 2 Samuel 11:14-17

So David basically murdered Uriah. By now he committed two grave sins punishable by death, adultery and murder.

Yahuah sent Nathan to David. He came to him, and said to him, “There were two men in one city; the one rich, and the other poor. The rich man had very many flocks and herds, but the poor man had nothing, except one little ewe lamb, which he had bought and raised. It grew up together with him, and with his children. It ate of his own food, drank of his own cup, and lay in his bosom, and was like a daughter to him. A traveler came to the rich man, and he spared to take of his own flock and of his own herd, to prepare for the wayfaring man who had come to him, but took the poor man’s lamb, and prepared it for the man who had come to him.”
David’s anger burned hot against the man, and he said to Nathan, “As Yahuah lives, the man who has done this deserves to die! He must restore the lamb fourfold, because he did this thing, and because he had no pity!”
Nathan said to David, “You are the man. This is what Yahuah, the God of Israel, says: ‘I anointed you king over Israel, and I delivered you out of the hand of Saul. I gave you your master’s house, and your master’s wives into your bosom, and gave you the house of Israel and of Judah; and if that would have been too little, I would have added to you many more such things. Why have you despised Yahuah’s word, to do that which is evil in his sight? You have struck Uriah the Hittite with the sword, and have taken his wife to be your wife, and have slain him with the sword of the children of Ammon. Now therefore the sword will never depart from your house, because you have despised me, and have taken Uriah the Hittite’s wife to be your wife.

- 2 Samuel 12:1-10

Yahuah confirms that David is a murderer and an adulterer. But what he also tells him about what he gave him and what he would have given him if he asked is amazing.

I gave you your master’s house, and your master’s wives into your bosom

It was Yahuah who gave David wives! It wasn't David, it was Yahuah. And there are still people out there who believe that God never approved polygyny and it was always men's idea? Come on, go home and read your Bible!

if that would have been too little, I would have added to you many more such things

Yahuah didn't stop at that. He also told David that if those wives and other possessions wouldn't have been enough he would have given more. Yahuah would have given David more wives if he asked Yahuah!

Polygyny at the time of the early assemblies

There is written evidence that Polygyny was still practiced after the resurrection of our Master Yahusha the Anointed King at the time of the early assemblies. Here is one example:

"When the Christian Church came into being, polygamy was still practiced by the Jews. It is true that we find no references to it in the New Testament; and from this some have inferred that it must have fallen into disuse, and that at the time of our Lord the Jewish people had become monogamous. But the conclusion appears to be unwarranted. Josephus in two places speaks of polygamy as a recognized institution: and Justin Martyr makes it a matter of reproach to Trypho that the Jewish teachers permitted a man to have several wives. Indeed when in 212 A.D. the lex Antoniana de civitate gave the rights of Roman Citizenship to great numbers of Jews, it was found necessary to tolerate polygamy among them, even though it was against Roman law for a citizen to have more than one wife. In 285 A.D. a constitution of Diocletian and Maximian interdicted polygamy to all subjects of the empire without exception. But with the Jews, at least, the enactment failed of its effect; and in 393 A.D. a special law was issued by Theodosius to compel the Jews to relinquish this national custom. Even so they were not induced to conform."

Joyce, George (1933). Christian Marriage: An Historical and Doctrinal Study. Sheed and Ward. p. 560.

It was the Roman Empire, the Church Fathers and then the Roman Catholic Church that twisted the truth and promoted the monogamy only dogma. Monogamy is not a sin, polygamy is not a sin but the monogamy-only doctrine is not scriptural and is from Satan.

Polygyny in the scriptures

If a man has two wives, the one beloved, and the other hated, and they have borne him children, both the beloved and the hated; and if the firstborn son is hers who was hated; then it shall be, in the day that he causes his sons to inherit that which he has, that he may not give the son of the beloved the rights of the firstborn before the son of the hated, who is the firstborn; but he shall acknowledge the firstborn, the son of the hated, by giving him a double portion of all that he has; for he is the beginning of his strength. The right of the firstborn is his.

- Deuteronomy 21:15-17

If polygyny was sin how come Yahuah gave us instructions on how to live plural marriage?

If he takes another wife to himself, he shall not diminish her food, her clothing, and her marital rights. If he doesn’t do these three things for her, she may go free without paying any money.

- Exodus 21:10-11

Once again, if polygyny was sin how come Yahuah gave us instructions on how to live plural marriage?

Polygyny today

Polygyny is still practiced today in many places in the world, mainly Africa and in the USA by Mormons. There's a small but increasing amount of men practicing polygyny among Christians and the Messianic movement. The Biblical Families website provides a good explanation to most Misconceptions about polygyny. I've also addressed one of the misconceptions in my post Polygyny truth: you can love more than one wife

Here are some polygyny and polygamy facebook groups.

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