Polygyny truth: A man can be one flesh with more than one woman

April 19, 2016
"Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh."

Genesis 2:24

The Law of Yahuah is still valid

The same Christians (Churchians) who believe that the Law of Yahuah is abolished on the cross quote the Law of Yahuah to justify their opposition against polygyny. How does that even make sense?

The Law of Yahuah consists of the 5 books of Moses, and that includes the above quoted Genesis 2:24.

If you're a Christian (Churchian) and you try to justify your opposition of polygyny by the Law of Yahuah and at the same time you claim that the Law of Yahuah was abolished, aren't you a hypocrite?

Think about it!


One flesh is a physical unity, and a man can have multiple of it

"Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh."

Genesis 2:24

When a man and a woman is united sexually, they become one flesh, this is the way Yahuah designed it them. The sexual organs of both the man and the woman are designed perfectly to fit one another. This creates a perfect physical unity "one flesh" designed by Yahuah.

The Holy Scriptures do not say anywhere that this physical unity "one flesh" can be with one woman only.  If you find such a verse please do let me know. A man can be one flesh with one woman and he can be one flesh with another woman. Simple as that.

On the baseline, "one flesh" is a physical unity. Those who claim that "one flesh" means a man can be one flesh with only one woman disregard the fact that the sexual organs of a man fit almost any woman's sexual organ perfectly. Following their incorrect assumption a man will have sex with one woman and then he can't have sex with another because miraculously his penis won't fit into another woman's vagina. Think about it! Does that even make sense?

A blatant example: a slotted screw driver will fit a slotted screw. They're designed to fit. When the slotted screw driver fits into the slotted screw they become "one". Does this mean that the same slotted screw driver can't fit another slotted screw and become "one" with it?

Here's another one. Good gloves are like second skin, they fit perfectly. It's like they were your skin, you're "one" with the gloves. Does this mean you can't have multiple gloves and all fit perfectly like second skin and feel like you're "one" with each pair of gloves?

Here's a third one. A wine bottle is closed with a cork, it fits into it perfectly. When you see a bottle of wine in the store you don't see a bottle and a cork, you the see a bottle of wine. Because the bottle and the cork makes up "one" unit. The cork will fit other wine bottles too, and when it does it makes up "one" unit.

A man's penis will fit into almost any vagina out there he wishes to fit into. That means he can be one flesh with as many women as he desires. That's just how it's designed by the creator.

Do you love the creator? Or do you want to follow the man made "monogamy only" doctrine?

Spiritual unity can be plural

When a man and woman becomes one flesh, it creates not just a physical but a spiritual bond too.

and said, ‘For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall join to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh?’ So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart.

- Matthew 19:5-6

He's talking about a specific one flesh union, when the man and the woman is in a marriage covenant. That's why Yahusha teaches us that this unity should not be broken up by men as it was joined together by Yahuah. His blessing is on it.

Yet you say, ‘Why?’ Because Yahuah has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously, though she is your companion, and the wife of your covenant.

- Malachi 2:14

There is one flesh unity outside of the institution of marriage, about this later.

The Holy Scriptures do not say anywhere that this spiritual unity can be with one woman only. If you find such a verse please do let me know. Watch Akon share some wisdom on polygyny and spiritual unity.

A married man is one flesh with his wife, he takes another wife and becomes one flesh with her, too. The second "one flesh" union does not tear apart the first "one flesh" union. These are individual unions, individual bonds.

A father has a fatherly "union" with his first son. When his second son is born, he'll have a fatherly union with the second son, too. The second union does not tear apart the first union. He loves them both, he's father to both.

Just as a brother can be one spiritually with multiple brothers, not just one, so a man can be one with multiple women, not just one.

Not for these only do I pray, but for those also who believe in me through their word, that they may all be one; even as you, Father, are in me, and I in you, that they also may be one in us; that the world may believe that you sent me.

- John 17:21

Is Yahusha saying here that a brother can only be one with one brother spiritually? No way! He says "they" - all of them can be one with one another.

The expression "one flesh" is similar to the expression "be one" as far as spiritual unity and oneness are concerned. And thus, a man can be one flesh with multiple women.

If a man finds a lady who is a virgin

If a man finds a lady who is a virgin, who is not pledged to be married, grabs her, and lies with her, and they are found; then the man who lay with her shall give to the lady’s father fifty shekels of silver. She shall be his wife, because he has humbled herHe may not put her away all his days. A man shall not take his father’s wife, and shall not uncover his father’s skirt.

Deuteronomy 22:28-30

Similarly to the previous verse this means that a man (whether married or single man) is going to be one flesh with that lady. Consequently a married man can be one flesh with his wife and a virgin lady who is not yet his wife. It's also worth mentioning that he (whether married or single man) is not committing adultery by having sex with an unmarried woman.

What's even more interesting is that the Law commands the man (both single and married) to marry this lady.

Consequently this means that the Law of Yahuah commands a married man to marry a virgin lady he had sex with, thus commands polygyny in this instance.

Was Moses a hypocrite who promoted monogamy but practiced polygyny?

It was Moses who jotted down:

"Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh."

Genesis 2:24

But he had two wives:


Now the priest of Midian had seven daughters. They came and drew water, and filled the troughs to water their father’s flock. The shepherds came and drove them away; but Moses stood up and helped them, and watered their flock. When they came to Reuel, their father, he said, “How is it that you have returned so early today?”
They said, “An Egyptian delivered us out of the hand of the shepherds, and moreover he drew water for us, and watered the flock.”
He said to his daughters, “Where is he? Why is it that you have left the man? Call him, that he may eat bread.”
Moses was content to dwell with the man. He gave Moses Zipporah, his daughter.

- Exodus 2:16-21

and a Cushite woman

Miriam and Aaron spoke against Moses because of the Cushite woman whom he had married; for he had married a Cushite woman.

- Numbers 12:1

So if Moses had two wives and yet he was promoting monogamy by the phrase "one flesh." then he was a hypocrite. But would Yahuah appoint a hypocrite to lead the children of Yisrael out of Egypt? No way.

The phrase "one flesh." does not exclude polygyny, a man can be one flesh with multiple women.

Barnabas Nagy
Barnabas Nagy

I’m Barnabas, a servant of Yahuah, who loves writing songs and speaking about the truth. Together with my lovely wife I run a small homestead where we raise free range organic chicken, ducks and turkey. We also have a garden where we grow seasonal vegetable. Read more