Polygyny truth: you can love more than one wife

December 14, 2015

Men can love more than one wife because Yahuah designed us this way. It’s in our DNA. It’s built in. We are naturally polygynist in nature. In this post I'm going to debunk a common anti-polygyny argument “you can only really love one person”. Polygyny is not a sin, it's marriage, multiplied.

Yahuah loves many

Yahuah doesn’t only love one person, he loves everyone that loves Him.

We love him, because he first loved us.

1 John 4:19

Certainly, since we are created in his image we can love many.

God created man in his own image. In God’s image he created him; male and female he created them.

Genesis 1:27

You can love all your children not just one

Certainly you can love all your children not just one of them, right? Why wouldn't you? Is your love limited to loving one of them only? Is your love not bigger than that? David even says that it’s good to have our household “full of them”. If you can love all of your children that proves you can love more than one human being. Are women not human beings?

Behold, children are a heritage of Yahuah. The fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows in the hand of a mighty man, so are the children of youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them. They won’t be disappointed when they speak with their enemies in the gate.

- Psalm 127:3-5

 Why would loving more than one wife so impossible but loving more human beings in general is possible?

Yahuah had two wives and he loved them both

Yahuah himself showed his love to two women in his own symbolical marriage.

Yahuah tells us the symbolic story of being married to two women: Oholah and Oholibah – symbolizing Samaria and Jerusalem. Certainly the God of love did love both of his wives. Indeed, he loved two women at the same time.

Yahuah’s word came again to me, saying, Son of man, there were two women, the daughters of one mother: and they played the prostitute in Egypt; they played the prostitute in their youth; there were their breasts pressed, and there was handled the bosom of their virginity. Their names were Oholah the elder, and Oholibah her sister: and they became mine, and they bore sons and daughters. As for their names, Samaria is Oholah, and Jerusalem Oholibah.

- Ezekiel 23:1-4

Those of you who think this is just a spiritual symbol, let me tell you that Yahuah doesn't use symbols which cannot be transferred to us on a human level. He also doesn't use symbols that would show him being in sin (as he can't sin) - Sin is the transgression of the Law and Yahuah would not transgress his own Law. Therefore, just by this verse alone, we can conclude in all certainty that a man can love more than one wife, and it's not a sin.

It's men's design to love multiple women

Men are capable of loving several women at once by design. The attachment of the husband to the wife is different from the attachment of the wife to the husband. One of the reason for this is that the husband owns his wife, the husband isn't owned by the wife.

Men are naturally polygynist. They are interested in other females even when they are married and in love with their first wife. Ask any married man! They look at other women anywhere they go. Looking at a woman with lust is not a sin.

Their interest in other women does not cancel their love for their current wife. Women, on the other hand side, are emotionally and spiritually attached to their husband and are generally uninterested in other males when they're married. If they are interested in other males that means they can no longer really love their husband as their attachment love can be towards one man only by design.

“Desire reveals design, and design reveals destiny.”

- John Eldredge, Wild at Heart

Simply, men are not limited to loving one woman. It’s in their DNA. They are Yahuah's image. If they are Yahuah's image and Yahuah can love many, obviously men can love many also. Just as Yahuah were married to two women and loved them both, so can men. Polygyny is not a sin.

Watch this video by Akon, who explains that a man can be attached to multiple women.

Jacob loved his wives

Most Christians think that Jacob didn't love his wife Leah, and that he only loved Rachel. This is not true according to Genesis 29:30. Jacob loved both of his wives, but he loved Rachel more. Logically, that means he also loved Leah. The point is, he loved both women, but Rachel was his favorite.

He went in also to Rachel, and he loved also Rachel more than Leah

- Genesis 29:30

Barnabas Nagy
Barnabas Nagy

I’m Barnabas, a servant of Yahuah, who loves writing songs and speaking about the truth. Together with my lovely wife I run a small homestead where we raise free range organic chicken, ducks and turkey. We also have a garden where we grow seasonal vegetable. Read more