The Husband Owns His Wife, She is His Possession

December 14, 2015

According to the Set Apart Scriptures the wife is the property of the husband. The husband, on the other hand is not the property of the wife. In other words, the wife belongs to the husband but not the other way around. It’s a matter of possession.

Wives are possessions of their husbands

Yahuah possesses you but you don’t possess him. You would not say that Yahuah is your property but you would rightly say you are Yahuah’s property. You can neither be responsible for Yahuah as he is above you and so he is responsible for you. It’s the very same logic with marriage. Belonging means hierarchy.

Before you stone me try to comprehend the fact that I did not make this up. It's not my invention, it's Yahuah's. If you don't like it you don't like HIS setup.

Let's look at how Abraham was called out of the town of Ur and followed Yahuah with all his possessions, including his wife.

Now Yahuah said to Abram, “Leave your country, and your relatives, and your father’s house, and go to the land that I will show you. I will make of you a great nation. I will bless you and make your name great. You will be a blessing. I will bless those who bless you, and I will curse him who curses you. All the families of the earth will be blessed through you.”
So Abram went, as Yahuah had told him. Lot went with him. Abram was seventy-five years old when he departed from Haran. Abram took Sarai his wife, Lot his brother’s son, all their possessions that they had gathered, and the people whom they had acquired in Haran, and they went to go into the land of Canaan. They entered into the land of Canaan.

- Genesis 12:1-5

So did Jacob.

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The angel of God said to me in the dream, ‘Jacob,’ and I said, ‘Here I am.’ He said, ‘Now lift up your eyes, and behold, all the male goats which leap on the flock are streaked, speckled, and grizzled, for I have seen all that Laban does to you. I am the God of Bethel, where you anointed a pillar, where you vowed a vow to me. Now arise, get out from this land, and return to the land of your birth.’”
Rachel and Leah answered him, “Is there yet any portion or inheritance for us in our father’s house? Aren’t we accounted by him as foreigners? For he has sold us, and has also quite devoured our money. For all the riches which God has taken away from our father, that is ours and our children’s. Now then, whatever God has said to you, do.”
Then Jacob rose up, and set his sons and his wives on the camels, and he took away all his livestock, and all his possessions which he had gathered, including the livestock which he had gained in Paddan Aram, to go to Isaac his father, to the land of Canaan.

- Genesis 31:11-18

Jacob obeyed Yahuah's voice, and his wives obeyed Jacob's voice. Just as it's set by Yahuah's hierarchy discussed earlier.

Permission of the father to marry his daughter

There is usually a masculine authority above a woman, it's either his father or her husband. If she is not married nor is she living at her father's house she is under the authority of Yahusha directly (eg widowed or divorced or fatherless women).

Notwithstanding, there is the requirement to ask for the father's permission to marry a woman. This is how Abraham's servant asked the permission of Laban to marry Rebekah to Jacob.

Now if you will deal kindly and truly with my master, tell me. If not, tell me, that I may turn to the right hand, or to the left.”
Then Laban and Bethuel answered, “The thing proceeds from Yahuah. We can’t speak to you bad or good. Behold, Rebekah is before you. Take her, and go, and let her be your master’s son’s wife, as Yahuah has spoken.”

- Genesis 24:49-51

Again, this proves the point that women are owned. First by their father, then by their husbands.

Paying for the woman

Now, as part of acquiring a woman the man usually paid a bride price to the father. People pay for things they want to own. Jacob paid 14 years of service for 2 wives.

Jacob loved Rachel. He said, “I will serve you seven years for Rachel, your younger daughter.

- Genesis 29:18

Fulfill the week of this one, and we will give you the other also for the service which you will serve with me yet seven other years.

- Genesis 29:27

Purchasing results in ownership. If you buy a house you will own it and it will belong to you. You will not belong to the house, the house will belong to you.

Solomon was acquainted with this. After all he had 700 wives. He wrote:

Who can find a worthy woman? For her price is far above rubies.

- Proverbs 31:10

Shechem would also pay for Dinah, Jacob's daughter.

Shechem said to her father and to her brothers, “Let me find favor in your eyes, and whatever you will tell me I will give. Ask me a great amount for a bride-price, and I will give whatever you ask of me, but give me the young lady as a wife.

- Genesis 34:11-12

As well as it was commanded in the Law to give a bride price for the woman.

If a man finds a lady who is a virgin, who is not pledged to be married, grabs her, and lies with her, and they are found; then the man who lay with her shall give to the lady’s father fifty shekels of silver. She shall be his wife, because he has humbled her. He may not put her away all his days.

- Deuteronomy 22:28-29

“If a man entices a virgin who isn’t pledged to be married, and lies with her, he shall surely pay a bride-price for her to be his wife. If her father utterly refuses to give her to him, he shall pay money according to the bride-price of virgins.

- Exodus 22:16-17

The need for an umbrella

You husbands, in the same way, live with your wives according to knowledge, giving honor to the woman, as to the weaker vessel, as being also joint heirs of the grace of life; that your prayers may not be hindered.

- 1 Peter 3:7

They need to belong to someone. Someone needs to own them. It was the woman who was deceived, not the man, so she was ordered to be ruled by her husband. The man was disobedient but wasn’t deceived.

Men take wives, women are given to be wives

It is men who take wives. Women do not take husbands. Women are given to be married. Men are not given to be married. Logically, being given to someone means that you will belong to the someone and be owned by the one who takes you. The one who takes is taking to own. You can only give a possession. The verses below perfectly illustrate this difference between men and woman.

The children of Benjamin did so, and took wives for themselves, according to their number, of those who danced, whom they carried off.

- Judges 21:23

Men take wives.

David arose and went, he and his men, and killed two hundred men of the Philistines. Then David brought their foreskins, and they gave them in full number to the king, that he might be the king’s son-in-law. Then Saul gave him Michal his daughter as wife.

- 1 Samuel 18:27

Men take wives, women are given to marriage.

They ate, they drank, they married, they were given in marriage, until the day that Noah entered into the ship, and the flood came, and destroyed them all.

Luke 17:27

For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are like God’s angels in heaven.

- Matthew 22:30

Men marry, women are given in marriage. Yahusha could have said "For in the resurrection they don't marry" but he didn't. It would have been incorrect as women do not marry, they are GIVEN IN MARRIAGE. And then once given in marriage she is owned by her husband.

Wives are maidservants

Just as the husband is under Yahusha the Anointed King, wives are under their husband. Since the husband is under the King, the husband is also a servant of the King. Being a servant is not something that I'm shameful of. In fact I feel privileged to be the servant of my Master, Yahusha the Anointed King. I will do what my Master commands me to do, and I seek to please him in everything I do.

So why is it that most wives don't think that they are servants of their husband? Or that being a servant is degrading? Why do they feel that they can do anything without the authority of their masters, their husband? While on the other hands their husbands feel it's a privilege to be a servant of the Most High. Why don't wives take it as a privilege to be servants of their husband, too?

But are wives really servants of their husband? Or am I just sexist?

Remember the earlier mentioned story of Abraham's servant and his quest to find a suitable woman for his master's son, Jacob? Let's look at it in context.

Abraham was old, and well stricken in age. Yahuah had blessed Abraham in all things. Abraham said to his servant, the elder of his house, who ruled over all that he had, “Please put your hand under my thigh. I will make you swear by Yahuah, the God of heaven and the God of the earth, that you shall not take a wife for my son of the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I live. But you shall go to my country, and to my relatives, and take a wife for my son Isaac.”

- Genesis 24:1-4

So we know that we are talking about Abraham's servant.

And then a little later we read that this same servant swore to Abraham, his master.

The servant put his hand under the thigh of Abraham his master, and swore to him concerning this matter.

- Genesis 24:9

The word "master" was translated from the Hebrew word


which is transliterated as


Only a servant can calls another person their master or lord. Logically, those who call someone a master or lord the same are servants of the master.

And Sarah called Abraham, her master (lord) too.

Sarah laughed within herself, saying, “After I have grown old will I have pleasure, my master being old also?”

- Genesis 18:12

The same word "adown" is used here too. As Sarah called Abraham her master, she acknowledged that in fact she was his servant. 

In the same way, wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; so that, even if any don’t obey the Word, they may be won by the behavior of their wives without a word; seeing your pure behavior in fear. Let your beauty be not just the outward adorning of braiding the hair, and of wearing jewels of gold, or of putting on fine clothing; but in the hidden person of the heart, in the incorruptible adornment of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God very precious. For this is how the holy women before, who hoped in God also adorned themselves, being in subjection to their own husbands: as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him master, whose children you now are, if you do well, and are not put in fear by any terror.

- 1 Peter 3:1-6

As you can see above Peter also admonishes wives in this manner.

Bathsheba went in to the king in his room. The king was very old; and Abishag the Shunammite was serving the king. Bathsheba bowed, and showed respect to the king. The king said, “What would you like?”
She said to him, “My lord, you swore by Yahuah your God to your servant, ‘Assuredly Solomon your son shall reign after me, and he shall sit on my throne.’

1 Kings 1:11-17

Another brilliant example to prove this point. Bathsheba David's wife called David her lord/master (adown).

Being owned and being a servant of my Master Yahusha is a privilege. It is my hope that more wives will adopt this mentality and would feel privileged to be servants of their masters, their husbands. Only then, when both the husband and the wife is in proper hierarchy and servitude to their master can marriage work. If you think this is sexist thinking then you're labeling Yahuah as sexist. Beware!

A man can possess more than one wife

It's important to note here that Jacob had not one but two wives. It's a misconception today that a man of Yahuah can't have more than one wife. Since Yahuah's hierarchy and setup has not changed, and wives are still possessions, a man can have as many wives as he desires.

Has Yahuah ever commanded men not to possess more than one thing? Never.

The neighbor has 2 cars. My colleague has 4 dogs. I have 3 winter trousers. Jacob had 2 wives. The Anointed King has 7 assemblies in the book of Revelation. Yahuah has many people. He never limited the amount of wives a man can own. He never ever called polygyny a sin. The woman was created for the man, not the man for the woman.

Polygyny is not a sin.

Barnabas Nagy
Barnabas Nagy

I’m Barnabas, a servant of Yahuah, who loves writing songs and speaking about the truth. Together with my lovely wife I run a small homestead where we raise free range organic chicken, ducks and turkey. We also have a garden where we grow seasonal vegetable. Read more